"Our boundaries define our personal space – and we need to be sovereign there in order to be able to step into our full power and potential"
Jessica Moore
At Je Mérite, I Deserve, we know that setting boundaries is one of the most powerful ways to honor and protect yourself.
This week, we’re embracing the affirmation “I Deserve Boundaries” (Je Mérite Des Limites) and inviting you to step into the strength that comes from knowing and asserting your worth.
Boundaries are not just limits we set; they are expressions of self-respect, self-love, and self-protection. By setting healthy boundaries, we create space for our own needs and well-being, allowing us to live with greater peace, joy, and energy. Boundaries empower us to cultivate relationships that honor who we are and help us stay true to our own journey.
Building healthy boundaries can take practice and self-awareness. Here are some steps to help you define and protect them.
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1. Define What’s Important to You
Take time to identify what truly matters to you. This clarity will help you determine where you need to draw the line and honor your priorities.
Let's begin with a blog post walking us thru what boundaries are and why they are so necessary for your self-care - from Tiny Buddha (by Lana Goes)
WHAT NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT SETTING BOUNDARIES: THE GOOD, BAD, AND UGLY
2. Communicate Your Needs Clearly
Don’t be afraid to assert your boundaries with others. Express your needs calmly, directly, and confidently. Clear communication is essential to maintaining strong, healthy boundaries.
This song by Jamila Woods explores the negotiation between private and shared space in a new relationship and the risk involved in letting someone get close enough to see your rough edges
3. Respect Your Own Boundaries
Setting boundaries is only the first step. Respecting and enforcing them is just as crucial. Honor the boundaries you set for yourself as a commitment to your well-being.
Our book suggestion this week is by the amazing Nedra Glover Tawwab
"Boundaries can look a lot of different ways depending on who makes them. a boundary for you might not be a boundary for me because it is unique," says Tawwab. "It's based on who i am"
SET BOUNDARIES, FIND PEACE: A GUIDE TO RECLAIMING YOURSELF
2. Learn to Say “No” with Grace
Saying “no” can be challenging but essential. Remember, a respectful “no” to others is often a powerful “yes” to yourself. Practice saying it firmly but kindly.
We have another double feature this week, starring some of my favorite actors
starring Sydney Poitier
Despite considering themselves liberal and open-minded, a couple must overcome their own latent racism when their strong-willed daughter wants to marry a distinguished black physician when she brings him home for dinner after meeting on a vacation.
nd the other, in the spirit of the weekend, it's spooky remake
starring Daniel Kaluya
A young African-American visits his white girlfriend's parents for the weekend, where his simmering uneasiness about their reception of him eventually reaches a boiling point.
Your ritual for this week -
To support you in your journey of honoring boundaries, we recommend our “I Deserve Peace” candle. With calming scents of vanilla and lavender, it’s designed to bring tranquility and focus. Light it during moments of reflection or self-care to remind yourself that peace is your priority. Pair it with our Mantra Notebooks for journaling your boundaries, your needs, and your reflections on self-worth. These simple rituals create a supportive foundation for honoring yourself every day.
Remember, setting boundaries is not about isolation; it’s about creating a safe and supportive space for yourself to grow, thrive, and live authentically. Every time you honor your boundaries, you are affirming that your needs and well-being matter.
As always, affirmations from previous weeks are available here
You'll be hearing more from me soon. Promise.
Tamara Charese
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