"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen."
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
At Je Mérite, I Deserve, we believe that one of the deepest human needs is the desire to be truly understood. In a world where we often feel rushed or unseen, it’s important to remind yourself that you deserve understanding.
Je Mérite d’être compris is an invitation to embrace your truth and seek out spaces where you are valued, heard, and understood for who you are.
Understanding is the foundation of connection. It allows us to feel seen, appreciated, and valued. When you are truly understood, it creates a sense of safety and belonging, nurturing both your emotional well-being and your relationships.
Enjoy with week's newsletter with 4 helpful tips
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1. Release the Need for Approval
Sometimes, understanding doesn’t mean agreement, and that’s okay. You don’t need everyone’s approval to be valid. Focus on those who make the effort to understand you, and let go of the pressure to conform to others’ expectations.
Enjoy this blog post from Je Mérite
HOW TO LET GO OF THE NEED FOR APPROVAL
2. Seek Out Empathetic Connections
Surround yourself with people who are willing to listen without judgment. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or community, you deserve to be in spaces where you feel safe to share your thoughts and emotions.
Next, exercises and worksheets
HOW TO DEVELOP EMPATHY: 10 EXERCISES & WORKSHEETS
3. Listen to Understand, Not to Respond
True understanding comes from a place of empathy. When engaging with others, listen with the intention of understanding their perspective rather than simply formulating a response. This approach builds deeper, more meaningful connections.
Next, a fantastic book to support you
THE LOST ART OF LISTENING: HOW LEARNING TO LISTEN CAN IMPROVE RELATIONSHIPS
4. Embrace Your Complexity
You are a multifaceted individual, and that’s something to celebrate! You deserve understanding not only for your strengths but also for your vulnerabilities and imperfections. By accepting all parts of yourself, you invite others to do the same.
In this film, our protagonist embraces everything. Literally. A metaphor for the limitlessness of the human mind. This is one of the movies that will show you that the real treasure is, indeed, inside of you.
As always, affirmations from previous weeks are available here
You'll be hearing more from me soon. Promise.
Tamara Charese
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