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this week's affirmation is… i deserve a family of my choosing, je mérite une famille de mon choix

this week's affirmation is…

i deserve a family of my choosing, je mérite une famille de mon choix

there are endless benefits to having a loving, supportive, chosen family

they can provide you with what you are lacking or aren’t receiving from your biological family

or, even better, provide you more good on top of the good you’re already getting from your blood relatives and expand your family

i'm not sure if i chose my family, or if they chose me, but i wouldn't have it any other way

when friends become family, it's a gift

family can look differently to each person, just know that you are loved

enjoy this week's bulletin and have a beautiful holiday!

*all photos are links to more information, link is an affiliate link

let's start a little different this week with tv/movie suggestion

a series that, at is core, is all about chosen family

on Hulu


chosen families is a concept born in the LGBTQIA+ community

family is a necessity in everyone's life

healthy familial bonds come in so many forms

many of them are born from trauma

this week's book selection is heavy

take heed

by Jaquira Díaz

while growing up in housing projects in puerto rico and miami beach, díaz found herself caught between extremes

as her family split apart and her mother battled schizophrenia, she was supported by the love of her friends

as she longed for a family and home, her life was upended by violence

as she celebrated her puerto rican culture, she couldn't find support for her burgeoning sexual identity

from her own struggles with depression and sexual assault to puerto rico's history of colonialism, every page of Ordinary Girls vibrates with music and lyricism


an incredible playlist

The Official POSE Playlist

we'll end with bonus booklist...

happy reading


9 Books About the Beauty and Complexities of Chosen Families

Gabe Montesanti, author of "Brace For Impact," recommends memoirs and novels about friendships that become a life-long bond


Top 10 books about chosen families

Switching focus from conventional emotional ties, writers from George Eliot to Hanya Yanagihara show there are other stories to tell, just as profound

“blood does not family make. those are relatives. family are those with whom you share your good, bad, and ugly, and still love one another in the end. those are the ones you select” - hector xtravaganza


give your family a big hug, in person, or virtually

as always, affirmations from previous weeks are available here


you'll be hearing more from me soon. promise.


tamara charese



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